I am one to think that chivalry is not dead. I love it when my husband opens doors for me, holds my hand and lets me walk in places first. I think it is great when people open doors for the elderly or help them out in any way they can. That is why I love my job so much. Even though I don't have the actual interaction with our elderly and disabled population, I still feel that I play a role in helping them out.
In one of the classes that we teach at my job to the new drivers is to communicate with people. Don't just assume that they need your help and grab their arm or take their wheel chair and start moving them. It is very hand to give this independence up and often times this is all the person has left in life. You need to ask the person what can I help you with, or even be more specific, "Would you like to use my arm while we walk?"
I want to keep my independence for as long as I can. Even if things get harder for me, if I can still do them then I will. I know that people will be there for me if I need them to, but I want this to me on my time and at my request. I pray that it wont ever come to this, but I have to be realistic. There will be times in my life where I will need to ask for help.
There is a difference between chivalry and then overstepping bounds. I think communication is the key here.
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